The impact of childhood can become more apparent as we age. In our 50s, after decades of building careers, raising families and managing responsibilities, we may begin to recognise feelings that have long been set aside.
Life transitions, loss or simply having more time to reflect can prompt questions about intimacy, independence and our sense of self.
Therapy at this stage is not necessarily about uncovering an unhappy childhood, but about understanding the emotional impact of the role we occupied within our family. For some former boarding school pupils, this may include exploring how early separation from home shaped their relationships, identity and ability to express emotional needs.
The term Boarding School Syndrome was popularised by psychotherapist Joy Schaverien. It offers a framework for exploring these questions. It is not a formal psychiatric diagnosis, nor does boarding school inevitably cause psychological difficulties. Rather, it describes possible emotional and relational consequences of growing up away from home.
Psychodynamic psychotherapy offers a space to reflect on your experiences at your own pace, including feelings that may be complicated, contradictory or difficult to put into words. Together, we can begin to consider how the past may be influencing the present, while making room for a more compassionate understanding of yourself.